Comments on: Mothers Day and the Infertile

By: Weekend Roundup | Lead Us Back

Weekend Roundup | Lead Us Back — Fri, 25 May 2012 16:24:03 +0000

[...] time to have a new baby – and a rough time to be a couple struggling with not having one. This post popped up on my radar early this week, a very timely look at infertility by Russell Moore. For [...]

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By: Mother’s Day — a time of rejoicing and a time of weeping

Mother’s Day — a time of rejoicing and a time of weeping — Sun, 13 May 2012 04:07:46 +0000

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By: Christina Blaney

Christina Blaney — Sat, 12 May 2012 22:12:38 +0000

I loved this article. It is so true. So many times, the infirtle seem to be forgotten about. Even my husband takes me being infertile lightly. He doesn’t understand why I don’t like walking through the baby section. I usually don’t go to baby showers because of all the feelings that come rushing around in my head.
Thank you for being sensitive to the Holy Spirit and writing this article. For a woman that suffers from infertility, I feel like someone took my words and posted them. I’ve known since a young age (15 or 16) I’d not be able to conceive children. Thank you for having a heart that’s sensitive to couples that are dealing in infertility. God bless.

By: One of the Hardest Days of the Year | Crossway

One of the Hardest Days of the Year | Crossway — Sat, 12 May 2012 13:01:33 +0000

[...] and especially if you are a pastor, this post by Russell Moore may be helpful to you. From Mother’s Day and Infertility: Mother’s Day is a particularly sensitive time in many congregations, and pastors and church [...]

By: This and That 05-12-12 « The Thompsonian Times

This and That 05-12-12 « The Thompsonian Times — Sat, 12 May 2012 12:12:29 +0000

[...] Mothers Day and the Infertile - It is good and right to honor mothers. The Bible calls us to do so. Jesus does so with his own mother. We must recognize though that many infertile women find this day almost unbearable. This is not because these women are (necessarily) bitter or covetous or envious. The day is simply a reminder of unfulfilled longings, longings that are good. – Russell Moore [...]

By: Weekend Roundup « Lead Us Back

Weekend Roundup « Lead Us Back — Sat, 12 May 2012 01:21:57 +0000

By: The Goods « Core Fellowship – South Shores Church

The Goods « Core Fellowship – South Shores Church — Fri, 11 May 2012 19:25:38 +0000

[...] Mother’s Day for the Infertile: This coming mother’s day, “remember the infertile as the world around us celebrates motherhood. The Proverbs 31 woman needs our attention, but the 1 Samuel 1 woman does too.” [...]

By: Mother’s Day is Not Always a Day of Celebration | Creating a Family

Mother’s Day is Not Always a Day of Celebration | Creating a Family — Fri, 11 May 2012 13:47:58 +0000

[...] is tone deaf to this suffering, you might want to share this wonderful essay by Dr. Russell Moore, Mothers Day and the Infertile. Mother’s Day is a particularly sensitive time in many congregations, and pastors and church [...]

By: marilyn schache

marilyn schache — Thu, 10 May 2012 04:58:28 +0000

I married late in life and was quite naive about infertility. After 5 years, we understood we couldnt have children and by that stage, I was 45 , we were not very financial missionaries and probably too old to adopt. So, it’s God’s grace over and over, sought after and applied at each time of tears - friends’ children marrying, friends becoming grandparents and so on. But I know that God’s grace is sufficient for me, tears or no tears, longings met or unmet. There’s an inspiring vimeo on facebook - Ian and Larissa - a young couple who know they cant have children and have a great perspective on marriage. Let us look to God to meet our needs, and be prepared for surprises from our loving Father.

By: Bits & Pieces | Better Things Ahead

Bits & Pieces | Better Things Ahead — Wed, 09 May 2012 14:00:25 +0000

[...] Mother’s Day & The Infertile – Dr. Russell Moore reminds us that “the Proverbs 31 woman needs our attention, but the 1 Samuel 1 woman does too.” [...]

By: Wednesday Link List « Thinking Out Loud

Wednesday Link List « Thinking Out Loud — Wed, 09 May 2012 09:31:32 +0000

[...] hurts, and church services just amplify that hurt. Those are the people dealing with infertility. Russell D. Moore rethinks Mother’s Day:”What if pastors and church leaders were to set aside a day for prayer for children for the [...]

By: Lincoln - 9 May 2012 | Trust AND Obey

Lincoln - 9 May 2012 | Trust AND Obey — Wed, 09 May 2012 04:14:53 +0000

[...] to noteworthy articles from other blogs and websites. Mother’s Day and the Infertile by Russell Moore It is good and right to honor mothers. The Bible calls us to do so. Jesus does so [...]

By: Invisible

Invisible — Tue, 08 May 2012 23:22:51 +0000

Regarding single women on Mother’s Day, I completely agree. I am single, I’ll be 38 in a few days, and my birthday often falls on Mother’s Day. I am dreading church this weekend because it is one more reminder that God has not given me a husband and children, and with each passing year, kids are less likely to happen. I am grateful for his blessings — he’s given me a great career and home, but I don’t understand why he has withheld a family from me. I want to trust him, but I fear growing old alone.

By: Emily R.

Emily R. — Tue, 08 May 2012 23:14:48 +0000

My husband and I are desiring to have children, but it has not happened yet. Last year my husband and I skipped church on Mother’s and Father’s day, we just couldn’t handle it. The year before they had baby dedications on Mother’s day. That made the service 100% unbearable. I bawled the entire time and made somewhat of a spectical of myself. I couldn’t help it, the tears just came!

Thank you for this post!

By: De

De — Tue, 08 May 2012 20:07:46 +0000

I am well past the age of expecting to bear a child now, and some Mother’s Day services have been harder for me than others. Last year I sat down, heard the visiting preacher say, “Please turn to 1 Samuel 1…” and I got up and left quickly before I fell apart - I’ve heard enough messages about Hannah. ;-) I agree that it can be a difficult day for many - although I’m married I have several single friends in their 40’s and 50’s whose dream had been marriage and children.
Thank you so much for your sensitivity.

By: Martha E

Martha E — Tue, 08 May 2012 18:01:43 +0000

I agree with Colorado Girl that Mother’s Day is also particularly hard for the never married. Many friends and I approaching the 30s and 40s without husbands, much less the hope of children. It’s so easy to do a countdown and realize your years of fertility are dwindling. I don’t think churches know what to do with this demographic of women.

By: Colorado Girl

Colorado Girl — Tue, 08 May 2012 17:09:05 +0000

Another group that may find Mother’s Day difficult are never-married women. I always hoped and expected to be married with 2-3 children. Now I am 40 and still single …

By: TJ Smith

TJ Smith — Tue, 08 May 2012 16:20:57 +0000

It is worth mentioning that some (many?) couples will never be able to have children, for whatever reason. Please offer us hope and please pray for us. Call us to Christ and His comforting hand. And please accept us as we are (and not as we might be): barren.

Thank you Dr. Moore for the reminder and the thoughtfulness to post.

By: Sam Shaw

Sam Shaw — Tue, 08 May 2012 11:43:47 +0000

For many years, I have used Mother’s Day to thank God for mothers by asking them to stand and be prayed over. Then, I have asked infertile couples desiring children to stand and be prayed over - by those near them laying their hands on them. We have also used Mother’s Day as Parent-Child dedication - and without fail, each year, at least one couple will trace the conception and birth of their baby, or their adoption granted, to the prayer time. It is a win-win. Couples feel cared for, God is honored as the giver of life, and the congregation sees and hears of answered prayer. By the way, the idea originally came from Jim Henry, FBC, Orlando. Thanks. Sam Shaw, Orchard Fellowship, Memphis, TN

By: Kim Shay

Kim Shay — Tue, 08 May 2012 11:13:50 +0000

Sandra Turner is absolutely correct. When we are experiencing a prodigal child, it’s extremely painful to sit in the service and hear the virtues of motherhood extolled when we may feel like we have failed God in our parenting.

By: Marilyn...in Mississippi

Marilyn...in Mississippi — Mon, 07 May 2012 22:16:40 +0000

This is a very good and thoughtful article…as far as it goes. You mention praying for those that are infertile to be able to have children. I do believe prayer changes things and I have personally seen people who were thought by their doctors to be infertile become with child after such prayers. On the other hand, nothing was said about a couple who absolutely have NO hope of ever having a child naturally because the woman has had to have her uterus surgically removed for health reasons. What about these couples? I realize there is the possible option of adoption but even with that there is always the possibility they can’t afford to adopt. Or that they just somehow can’t deal with adoption because they can’t yet deal with their barren womb and empty arms! I can’t imagine how terribly hard this must be for women like that. I have someone that I love dearly who is going through just this situation right now. I love my three children that God blessed my husband and I with but for this loved one’s sake , I will be glad when Mother’s Day is over.

By: Jill McGuire

Jill McGuire — Mon, 07 May 2012 16:37:06 +0000

This is such a blessing to hear. Thank you Dr. Moore for your continued heart for families that have such a strong desire for lots of “pitter-patter” down the hallway, but who don’t see this prayer answered by the Lord very quickly or even at all.

The Lord wrote quite the story for my husband and I to experience when it comes to our family growing…2 years of infertility, one miscarriage, starting the adoption process, getting pregnant by God’s miracle, postponing the adoption process, waiting for our little boy to be old enough to restart the adoption process, updating paperwork to adopt, receiving a referral by the adoption agency 2 weeks ago and then losing our hope of having this little girl join our family just last week later due to an awful mistake by the adoption agency, and now contemplating next steps as we wait for the fog of grief to rise.

Please continue to keep all of this in the forefront of evangelicals. It is reality for more people than we will ever know.

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 07 May 2012 16:24:04 +0000

My wife and I experienced two miscarriages prior to the birth of our oldest child and I can say from experience that those Mothers days that happened before our daughter Hannah was born were tough, especially for my wife.

Later my wife’s sister lost her firstborn to an infection 10 days after birth and even though she has subsequent children I know it is tough for her too.

Our church does an amazing job of exactly what you describe Dr. Moore by celebrating with those who celebrate and mourning with those who mourn. Our tradition is one where we honor and celebrate the mothers in our congregation and then we have a time of prayer where those to whom mothers day brings pain are invited forward and then the congregation is invited to surround them and lay hands on them in a time of prayer. It has been a powerful opportunity to love on those in our church at a time of difficulty.

By: When Mother’s Day is Painful | Desiring Virtue

When Mother’s Day is Painful | Desiring Virtue — Mon, 07 May 2012 16:02:04 +0000

[...] the issue of infertility on Mother’s Day was highlighted by Dr. Russell Moore as he encouraged churches to remember those who will find this … What if, at the end of a service, the pastor called any person or couple who wanted prayer for [...]

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Mon, 07 May 2012 14:31:05 +0000

Cannot tell you just how much I appreciate this - thank you!! A hard day for sure….

By: Sandra Tanner

Sandra Tanner — Mon, 07 May 2012 14:12:00 +0000

Mother’s Day is not only hard on those who are infertile, but also for those who have lost a child or are allienated from one.