“Stand by Your Man” by Tammy Wynette
— Friday, August 23rd, 2013 —
Hillary Clinton famously said, in the midst of questions about her husband’s fidelity, “I’m not some Tammy Wynette, standin’ by my man.” Wynette was offended, prompting an apology from the future Secretary of State to the Queen of Country Music.
Clinton, of course, meant no insult to Wynette. Her point was that, whatever the problems in their marriage, her relationship was about love and commitment, not about a doormat wife who doesn’t know when to leave. It’s clear now that Hillary Clinton is no doormat. But the same isn’t so clear in others of the public scandals we’ve seen flashed across our television and digital notebook screens.
Whenever a public wife stands at the podium by her husband as he announces his morally “inappropriate” behavior, this question comes up. Should she be there at all? Is she being degraded, or is this an act of love?
This isn’t just a question for famous marriages. In every marriage, there’s the question of what’s the balance between “for better or for worse” and enabling bad behavior by a spouse.
In this week’s episode of “The Cross and the Jukeboxt,” I’m joined by writer Trillia Newbell to talk about Wynette’s classic song. Is this song about living with one another patiently, forgiving sins, or is it about a woman whose patience is presumed upon by a cheating husband?
Listen to this week as we hear from Tammy Wynette and discuss what, biblically, it means to stand by your man, or by your woman, as the case might be.