Pray for Russia’s Orphans

— Monday, April 12th, 2010 —

I nervously switched off the television early Sunday morning as I heard my children bounding toward the door. I didn’t want them to hear the news. I didn’t want to hear it myself. Every time I see what is going on in Russia, with the government calling for an immediate halt on American adoptions, I think about the orphanage where I first met my two oldest sons.

And I want to cry.

The news reports are appalling, to be sure. A grandmother in Tennessee reportedly placed a child adopted from a Russian orphanage on a plane bound for the former Soviet Union, sending him back because the family allegedly said they couldn’t deal with his disturbed emotional state and alleged potential for violence. The Russian government and the Russian people are outraged, and want to see to it this will never happen again.

There are several things Christians ought to keep in mind and, more importantly, in prayer here.

First of all, we should pray for this child, and for his family. We, of course, don’t know much about this situation beyond what we see in the news, but that’s enough to know this is a catastrophe. It is horrific any time a child is orphaned. It is even more horrific when a child is twice-orphaned.

There is no defense, and no excuse, for the actions this family took. If there were emotional or behavioral problems, there are legitimate mechanisms in place to work through those things with the assistance of counselors or social workers, even through the agency by which the family was formed in the first place.

We should also pray, and pray fervently, that God would change the hearts of the Russian government officials, that they would not allow this tragedy to further harm the already endangered orphans of Russia.

Sadly, this American family’s actions may well have catastrophic implications. This case, along with one or two others, has given impetus to a nativist Russian nationalism already uncomfortable with international adoption.

At one level, I can understand this. Imagine if the United States collapsed into a hodgepodge of independent and impoverished states and American children were being adopted by citizens of a Cold War triumphant USSR. Add to that, a high profile case of this kind of neglect, and this impulse can be whipped into a frenzy.

The stakes are high. Families who were poised to be formed through adoption are now suddenly on hold, in a “diplomatic limbo” of waiting. “An estimated 3,500 Russian children are in some stage of the adoption process with 3,000 American families,” reports the New York Times, citing the Joint Council on International Children’s Services.

The very fact that this horrible situation is getting such coverage all over the world right now is precisely because it is such an anomaly. There have been more than 50,000 U.S. adoptions from Russia since 1991, with adopting parents carefully screened and the Russian government receiving reports back from the post-adoption home studies. The stories of abuse are rare, much rarer than domestic abuse rates in virtually any country.

It would be quite different if there were a vibrant adoption culture in the former USSR. This is not the case. Adoption is extremely rare in Russian culture. The very few families who adopt, and children who are adopted, are often stigmatized.

The leftover effects of Communist materialism matched with the instability of the new economy have resulted in a skyrocketing abortion rate along with orphanages filled with abandoned infants and
children. The children who are not adopted languish in these orphanages until they are old enough to be thrown out, defenseless, into society, where they often find few options beyond the Russian military, prostitution, or suicide.

The Russian orphanage where my wife and I found our sons, then Maxim and Sergei, was the most heartbreaking place I have ever been. Its sights and smells and sounds come back to me every day.

But, even more so, before my mind’s eye every day are the faces of the children we couldn’t adopt. The little girl who peered around the door frame every day as we visited our then-future sons in their room. What happened to her? What will happen to those like her, and like my sons, who are waiting now for homes and families, someone to love them and feed them and hug them?

Until now, my hope has been that Christians from America, Canada, Germany, France, or somewhere may have adopted them, to raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. If the anti-adoption Russians get their way, I fear that these children will be sentenced to institutions, never to find families.

There are other Maxims and Sergeis, sitting day and night in cribs somewhere in Russia. Let’s pray that the Russian people make the right decisions for them. And let’s pray for the providence of the One who promises to be a Father to the fatherless. This situation isn’t just a human interest tragedy. And it’s not just a foreign policy issue.

Russia’s orphans aren’t foreigners to those of us who’ve been adopted into the family of Christ. They’re Jesus’ little brothers and sisters (Matt 25:40). He won’t forget them.

And neither can we.

My television’s going to stay off for awhile. I don’t want my boys to overhear this horrible scenario and wonder if, God forbid, they might ever be put back on a plane to Russia. I don’t want them to know, yet, that they live in a world so dark that such things can happen. Maybe you could turn your television off too, just for a little while, and pray for the orphans of Russia.

21 Responses to “Pray for Russia’s Orphans”

  1. Leah Sweetman

    Praying–

    kathy in reply

    Praying and Trusting!

  2. Phil B

    Dr. Moore,
    We lived in Russia for two years. We have also adopted two children (from elsewhere). When were were in Russia, my wife regularly volunteered in the orphanage in the city where we lived. Not one child was adopted while we were there — and there was little hope any of them ever would be adopted. Our prayers during that time (and now) are that God will give Christians inside of Russia hearts for adoption (I’m hesitant to call them Russian Christians because many are not ethnically Russian and do not like to be called “Russian” — trust me from experience). I pray, too, that the doors for international adoption will remain open, but maybe a situation like this is just what God will use to wake up the Christian community within the former USSR to commit themselves to adoption and care for orphans.

  3. Joseph Hanna

    Russ I thank God every day for my wonderful grandchildren. Timothy and Benjamin are so wonderful and I can’t understand how anyone could send a child back to a life of mistrust and wordering what will happen next.

    I will pray that the Father will clear up this mess and let those 3500 children free. Thanks for the article.

  4. Jonny King

    When I read this, I thought of your words in the Acknowledgements section in “The Kingdom of Christ,” with the emotive beauty of these, sticking with me ever since… And I quote…

    “Maria and I adopted from a Russian orphanage our two sons, Benjamin Jacob and Timothy Russell. Our two little men have filled our home with the sounds of running feet and shrieking giggles, and I love them more than I ever knew it was possible to love.”

    And further on…

    “I am thankful to my sons for making me a better theologian, but I am far more grateful for making me a better Christian. Repeating “Our Father” in the Lord’s Prayer was too commonplace for me, until I knew the joy of seeing these two little faces looking up at me, hearing from their mouths the word “Daddy.” Thanks to them, I have a foretaste of the Kingdom joy of joining my brother Jesus in saying the most radical and liberating words in all of Christian theology - “Abba Father” (Gal. 4:6).”

    While these words will be appropriate for a blog post, it is fitting that they be quoted here!

    As a Father of three boys, I understand exactly what you mean!

    Therefore, the reality of what you are affirming could be tragic on a number of levels, with a call to prayer an appropriate response, even for this blogger in NZ!

  5. Jerri

    I don’t want to make light of what an outrage it is that someone would actually give up on their child and I’ve not seen any of the news, but I will assume that the child has Reactive Attachment Disorder.
    Symptoms of RAD can go unseen until a child is a teenager in many cases. There’s been fairly little research to go on for treating the disorder. Children who have it can behave maliciously and the behavior directed specifically at main caregivers. This woman probably felt extremely threatened by the child. (I should state that I’m a social worker, not a psychologist/counselor…)

    I will be praying for this woman, but also pray often that children are placed in homes where they’ll be reached with the healing hope of the gospel.

  6. Jim Pemberton

    We have a large church with hundreds of children. It would seem easy for more than a few to go on without notice. Nevertheless, we all seem to take seriously enough our duty as church members to look after the spiritual development of each other’s kids enough that few if any go without notice. Some of our children were born in Russia and adopted by some of our families. A couple are my daughter’s age and are friends of hers. Now I’m not cut out for focused children’s ministry in the church, but I love these kids all the same. How many more kids would we lose the opportunity to love and watch grow in healthy families and in our church into strong children of God? So this is not just some international issue that has no bearing on us, but personally affects so many of us.

  7. Nancy

    Dr. Moore, First of all, thank you for your blog and your heart. As someone who has had a heart for Russia and its people for several years now and just recently having entered into a part-time ministry there, I too was saddened by that news on many levels.

    Tomorrow I will stand before a room full of women to talk about Russian orphans and I pray that my words will reach soft hearts and open minds.

    I have been praying for that little boy and I have been praying for the woman who put him on the plane.

    Thank you for helping two young children and I will now pray for you and your family.

    May God go before you in all you do,
    Nancy B

  8. Clinton White

    Amen Russ.

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